Guys Don’t Like Magic Mike?

I heard about the movie Magic Mike a couple of weeks ago as people started to make fun of it on Twitter.

I didn’t know it was a movie about male strippers with the hot wolf from True Blood, Channing Tatum, and Matthew McConaughey.

Yum.

That information gradually worked its way into my knowledge base from status updates and pictures on Facebook, but it didn’t pique my interest enough to look up the movie and see what all the fuss was about.

But then I saw this post on Facebook:

“To all my female friends that are posting about going to see a certain movie, I am sure that you would not think it very nice about all the guys posting about it when we were going to watch that same type of movie…. Just saying…smh”

And my first thought was whah, whah, whah. Boo frickin’ hoo. You mean guys don’t like the idea of women going to see a movie that exploits men for their physical appearance? Does that make you feel a little insecure? A little inadequate? A little threatened?

Good.

Have a taste of your own medicine.

You’ll always be this girl to me, Jesse. credit: abbyandandy.com

And then I wondered if he had a point. How would women react if men were posting the same type of comments about going to see Demi in Striptease, or Jesse Spano in Showgirls, or any of the dozens of other movies made for them with the same premise?

We’d ignore it because we expect it of them, or skewer them for being open about enjoying attractive women on the big screen.

I don’t think it is a bad thing for men to get a taste of how movies like this make women feel, and I don’t think it is a bad thing for women to go see and enjoy this movie. But if you have seen women rubbing it in the faces of the men in their life on Facebook and Twitter, maybe the question has entered your mind too.

Why?

I won’t go see it, but that isn’t because of some moral opposition to the film. The last movie I saw in the theater was The Help. Before that it might have been Star Wars, Episode III. I prefer to watch movies at home, and I might watch Magic Mike when it is available On Demand and my husband goes to play poker.

But I wonder if some women’s interest in this movie stems from a spirit of retaliation.

I’ve seen a few male strip clubs come and go here in Austin. They never stay in business because for the most part, I don’t think women have the same draw to these clubs as men do. Personally, the only time I’ve ever considered going to a noodle bar, was before I got married, and I wanted to get back at my husband for going to a strip club.

I wanted him to understand the same type of hurt I felt when he went to celebrate our upcoming marriage by having another women rub her naked body on him.

I didn’t go and I don’t regret that decision.

I think that once we stop looking at gender equality as an excuse to exhibit the same types of behaviors that have pissed us off about men for years we’ll be closer to real change.

I enjoy the eye candy as much as the next woman, but I’d rather see these guys playing in a Top Gun, sand volleyball scene, or cleaning a house and doing some laundry shirtless in a pair of surfer shorts.

Because I’m old and that’s what I think is sexy.

Having some guy rub his banana hammock on me while all my girlfriends watch feels more humiliating than empowering to me, and I think I would probably be embarrassed to go watch this movie with my friends.

What do you think?

Do you think it’s all in good fun? Women enjoying some beautiful men doing a Hollywood version of the dong helicopter?

Do you think we will ever get past this idea that equality means women get to do all the things that we’ve complained about men doing for years?

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19 thoughts on “Guys Don’t Like Magic Mike?

  1. I don’t have a problem with it if my wife wants to go. She can drool over those good looking, well built, men. I feel bad that she has to come home to my fluffiness and receding hairline.

    • Haha! I don’t think my husband would have a problem with it either, but if made him feel bad like this guy on FB I would have to consider that.

  2. I’m on the side of, “It’s about time.” After all of the female nudity women have had to endure along side their mates during movies, it’s nice to see the shoe on the other foot. Then again, now that I’m older, none of this stuff ruffles me too much. If someone doesn’t like something, they don’t have to see it or read it or whatever the case may be.

    Great post (as always :) ).

    • That was pretty much my same reaction too. It is about time, I just had to ask the questions after I had that internal response to the guy’s comment on FB. Are we just as bad now? I think maybe I’m over thinking the weenie movie :)

      • Ha ha–I think you’re right. Any movie that can be referred to as a “weenie movie” probably doesn’t need to be overthought. :)

  3. Knowing that men have been treating women as sex objects for as long as there have been men and women together, it’s difficult for me to feel any negative feelings at all, when women finally do the same thing to men.

    Let’s see… what’s that make the sexual objectification score now?

    MEN: 3.5 billion
    WOMEN: 1,007

    I think the ladies still have some catching up to do here… Lol

    • We have a lot of objectifying before we’re even then ;)
      It’s entertaining anyway. I like watching people’s responses to it.

  4. On one hand I think it’s great to give guys a taste of their own medicine, but on the other hand I think it’s pointless. Men and women might be able to be in equal in some ways eventually (jobs, rights, etc.), but they’re still never going to be physically equal. Guys will always be more focused on sexuality, regardless of whether a woman tries to make him feel bad about it.

  5. The main outcome of women’s nasty rubbing-men’s-faces-in-it reaction to this movie is that most men will never again be able to take women seriously if they complain about objectification. You can’t have it both ways!

    • I have to agree with that. It might feel good to act the same way, but it doesn’t change anything, and I predict it will make the objectification of both sexes worse.

  6. This idea of revenge and “catching up to do” is both sick and sad. What IS WITH that? It seems like a negatively based emotion to me…nothing that is going to help hold the relationship together at home if it was done in spite.

    Guys don’t forget either. Every transaction in a relationship is either a deposit or a withdrawal. Seriously, consider the opposite, the male IN A RELATIONSHIP going out to do this with friends. You want a society like that ??? There are nearly nude bodies are everywhere at beaches and pools…This movie made money daring women to show up and be “liberated” by screaming and commenting. Brilliant. I doubt it makes things better at home for these women, not one bit. It is unlikely that this really warmed the intimate relationship up and many women resent the idea that it would.

    Why bother with an activity that may leave you both bitter… for a movie ? Women that are in relationships may find that their husbands feel a whole new license to move on things that they had kept under control. Not good.

    • I agree with you, especially for those in committed relationships–particularly relationships that have this type of scorekeeping mentality (not all do, though). It has the potential to do some damage if there is ill intent on either side. For single ladies, I do believe it is all in good fun, and if they can put up with the weak, predictable plot line and have some fun in the process, then I don’t see the harm. But, I agree that it will probably give men the idea that can take things to a different level now that women are acting the same way, and being even more over the top about it. I’m not sure it is a win for either gender.

  7. The promise of women’s ‘liberation’ from the home was that they might become Einsteins or Da Vincis. Instead they became ‘dirty bob’, the pervert who leers down at the local strip joint.

  8. I have yet to see this movie – but I will eventually rent it, at home, on a night my husband is out. But it is just to see what all the watercooler talk is about. I honestly have no idea where he would stand on this?? Weird I just don’t know if he would care or not? ( probably try to get to the cable bill first that month just in case! :-0 )

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