I heard about the movie Magic Mike a couple of weeks ago as people started to make fun of it on Twitter.
I didn’t know it was a movie about male strippers with the hot wolf from True Blood, Channing Tatum, and Matthew McConaughey.
That information gradually worked its way into my knowledge base from status updates and pictures on Facebook, but it didn’t pique my interest enough to look up the movie and see what all the fuss was about.
But then I saw this post on Facebook:
“To all my female friends that are posting about going to see a certain movie, I am sure that you would not think it very nice about all the guys posting about it when we were going to watch that same type of movie…. Just saying…smh”
And my first thought was whah, whah, whah. Boo frickin’ hoo. You mean guys don’t like the idea of women going to see a movie that exploits men for their physical appearance? Does that make you feel a little insecure? A little inadequate? A little threatened?
Have a taste of your own medicine.
And then I wondered if he had a point. How would women react if men were posting the same type of comments about going to see Demi in Striptease, or Jesse Spano in Showgirls, or any of the dozens of other movies made for them with the same premise?
We’d ignore it because we expect it of them, or skewer them for being open about enjoying attractive women on the big screen.
I don’t think it is a bad thing for men to get a taste of how movies like this make women feel, and I don’t think it is a bad thing for women to go see and enjoy this movie. But if you have seen women rubbing it in the faces of the men in their life on Facebook and Twitter, maybe the question has entered your mind too.
I won’t go see it, but that isn’t because of some moral opposition to the film. The last movie I saw in the theater was The Help. Before that it might have been Star Wars, Episode III. I prefer to watch movies at home, and I might watch Magic Mike when it is available On Demand and my husband goes to play poker.
But I wonder if some women’s interest in this movie stems from a spirit of retaliation.
I’ve seen a few male strip clubs come and go here in Austin. They never stay in business because for the most part, I don’t think women have the same draw to these clubs as men do. Personally, the only time I’ve ever considered going to a noodle bar, was before I got married, and I wanted to get back at my husband for going to a strip club.
I wanted him to understand the same type of hurt I felt when he went to celebrate our upcoming marriage by having another women rub her naked body on him.
I didn’t go and I don’t regret that decision.
I think that once we stop looking at gender equality as an excuse to exhibit the same types of behaviors that have pissed us off about men for years we’ll be closer to real change.
I enjoy the eye candy as much as the next woman, but I’d rather see these guys playing in a Top Gun, sand volleyball scene, or cleaning a house and doing some laundry shirtless in a pair of surfer shorts.
Because I’m old and that’s what I think is sexy.
Having some guy rub his banana hammock on me while all my girlfriends watch feels more humiliating than empowering to me, and I think I would probably be embarrassed to go watch this movie with my friends.
What do you think?
Do you think it’s all in good fun? Women enjoying some beautiful men doing a Hollywood version of the dong helicopter?
Do you think we will ever get past this idea that equality means women get to do all the things that we’ve complained about men doing for years?